LGBTQ Voices
How My Friends Support Me Being Openly Queer

Last Updated on August 18, 2020 by blendtw
I started coming out in 7th grade. I remember telling a few friends I was bisexual, and they were not into it.
One girl, imminently, recoiled and asked me if I liked her. That kind of shut me down from talking about it with my friends from school.
What was nice was at my summer camp, I met the first girl I had a crush on who was also bisexual. She explained what being bisexual was and helped me get comfortable what my feelings were and how to explain them.
Looking back, I realize now that I was very, very infatuated with Princess Jasmine and Anastasia, but I didn’t know why I liked those characters so much at the time. During my summers, I was comfortably out.
I had to have a second come out in high school. Telling my friends wasn’t too hard because other people were starting to be openly queer and no one seemed to mind. Telling my mom was very awkward.
I remember slowly starting to come out to her for, like, three years. I would start asking questions like, “Is it weird if I think I would want to date girls” and, “I don’t want to kiss anyone, but like I do think I’m attracted to females. Is that cool?”
For a long time, she decided it wasn’t cool, following the motto of “yeah it’s cool to be gay, but not if someone in my family is gay.”
I think it really took her until about last year to be fully comfortable with my sexuality. I’m still not fully out to all of my family and I’m not sure if I will ever be.
Lots of people have treated me differently because I am queer. The way I dress and look has also become very androgynous, and people do not always like that.
I’ve dated a few guys that assumed I would cheat on them once they found out I was bisexual. I’ve been with many girls who don’t think I’m actually into girls because I’m “only bi.”
There’s a lot of negative energy towards bisexual people in the LGBTQ community. To this day, when I tell people I am bisexual, I think a lot of them don’t believe me.
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How I Gained Self-Acceptance Through Queer Straight Alliance

Last Updated on September 12, 2020 by Sydney Murphy
I’ve come out to friends who know me well. Not family. It’s mainly because they probably wouldn’t understand bisexuality. They would think that you have to be either straight or gay.
I feel like they would consider it ‘just a phase.’ I’m at a stage in my life where I’m fairly independent.
My personal life is something that my family becomes aware of on a need to know basis. I don’t know if I’ll ever come out to them. Maybe someday, but not now.
In high school, I was pretty repressed. I went to a Catholic middle school.
The message there was that being anything other than straight means that you’re going to burn in hell. Even though, at that point, I was starting to question that doctrine.
Moving into high school, subconsciously, I think I still carried it with me. I was pretty sexually repressed until around the start of junior year.
I helped a friend, who was out at the time, start the Gay-Straight Alliance, later the Queer-Straight Alliance, at my high school.
By changing who I was hanging out with, I began to develop self-acceptance.
I realized it was okay to question these things. It was in senior year of high school that I started saying to people, ‘I’m figuring myself out, but I know that I’m not completely straight.’
I’ve always felt sort of weird about being a late bloomer. I do feel privileged in that I did eventually have the space to explore my sexuality. I know that’s not always the case for everyone.
We had a honeymoon stage where it seemed like LGBTQ people were having a lot more freedom to be self-expressive. It felt like there was this social progression for acceptance.
I think the Trump era has definitely reinforced the fact that this maybe not have been true. Although it’s certainly not the 50s and 60s, I think that there is still a considerable amount of struggle when it comes to being out. Especially depending on where you are.
There are pockets where people are very accepting. However, we still have a long way to go.
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How I Overcame the Expectations of My Family to Conform to Societal Norms

Last Updated on September 12, 2020 by Sydney Murphy
Growing up in a conservative household, there was no room to be different or to speak out against the norm.
My parents expected me to be very traditional in all aspects of my life. They even originally didn’t want me to go to college. Instead, they wanted me to just look for a spouse right out of high school.
However, I am not very traditional and I have come to the realization that I probably never will be. Most of my friends are single and in their late 20s.
They do not have typical office jobs and many of them are in the LGBTQ community. Actually, being a part of this friend group is the main reason why I had enough confidence to come out.
Once I graduated high school, I was pretty lost. I was hiding my sexuality from my family for years and even tried dating the opposite sex to please them.
However, once I started going online more frequently, I started to meet people who had similar struggles and stories. This is where I was really able to speak out and make connections in the LGBTQ community.
Eventually, I was able to come out as a lesbian to my family with my friends’ help and support. While I was not accepted right away, I was still so relieved that I was being open and honest with my loved ones.
Personally, I really hope that our community can keep staying strong and speaking out for what is right. In recent years, I have noticed many more LGBTQ characters and figures being publicized in pop culture. This is wonderful for younger audiences, specifically so that they can be introduced to our community at a young age.
I personally appreciate TV shows such as Glee and Riverdale for their ability to use LGBTQ characters. Also, seeing same-sex marriages being legalized and promoted is really a great thing for our community. This really gives our community the validation it needs to keep making a difference in the world.
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My Journey Testing Out Different Labels for Myself

Last Updated on September 10, 2020 by Sydney Murphy
Growing up in the internet age with things like Tumblr and Twitter in my life as a teenager really helped me see that I was bisexual. On the internet, you can be true to yourself.
You can explore and discover who you are relatively safely. You can be anonymous to people you know in real life. That gave me so much freedom.
Because of the internet, I was able to test out different labels and see what was right for me. I identified as aromantic, pansexual, and lesbian. I eventually settled on “bisexual” as the best label for me.
I don’t use Tumblr anymore because it has many toxic ideas on it. Still, it really helped me as a teen trying to find myself.
Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I hadn’t grown up with the internet or if I hadn’t lived in a progressive city like New York. I think I could have lived my whole life repressing my sexuality and believing I was straight.
Being bisexual is so important to me. I’m so thankful for the environment I was raised in.
The LGBTQ community is incredibly important to me. Having a community like that helps me meet amazing new people.
I love going to LGBTQ+ events. This community is so strong, creative, and resilient. I’m very proud to be a part of that.
All of my close friends are LGBTQ+ too. Even people that I knew before coming out.
Having that in common brings us closer together. It’s something that we can talk about and bond over.
I’m not officially out to my parents but I think they know. They’re very open-minded so they wouldn’t care anyway. I’m out to my sister, she’s bisexual too.
With my friends, it was casual. Like I said, they’re all part of the LGBTQ+ community.
I knew they were LGBTQ+ before they knew about me. That made it really easy to just drop into conversation. Now we’re a big happy LGBTQ+ group, it’s great.