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Rethinking Rom-Coms: The Big Sick



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Romantic comedies (or rom-coms) like “Pretty Woman” or “Say Anything” are often very charming and enjoyable films. The problem with rom-coms is that many of them rely on the same narrative formula; two people falling in love, facing some kind of set back, and then coming back together in the end without much else happening in the film.

The repetition of this formula across rom-coms makes many films in this sub-genre feel predictable and unrealistic. Fortunately, “The Big Sick” (released this July) is a fresh take on how to make a romantic comedy and bares several useful lessons for future projects in the sub-genre.

Co-written by husband and wife Kumail Nanjiani and Emily Gordon, “The Big Sick” is based on the truly unique story of how the two fell in love. Set in Chicago, the film starts out with Kumail (playing himself) and Emily (played by Zoe Kazan) meeting at Kumail’s comedy show and quickly developing a romantic relationship.

Just when things are getting fairly serious between them, the expectations of Kumail’s traditional Pakistani family and Emily being put into a medically induced coma significantly complicate matters.

“The Big Sick” is a truly unique addition to the romantic comedy sub-genre because it features an interracial couple and presents realistic challenges to the future of Kumail and Emily’s relationship.

Like most movies that come out of Hollywood, rom-coms tend to be white washed and provide little to no space for people of color.

By featuring the relationship between Kumail (who’s Pakistani) and Emily (who’s white), “The Big Sick” subverts the rom-com trend of exclusively focusing on white couples.

Considering that interracial dating is a growing trend in the U.S., it only makes sense that rom-coms present and normalize the image of interracial couples.

Often in rom-coms couples form and fall apart for rather unrealistic reasons; a sudden epiphany, a melodramatic cheating scenario, and so on. In contrast, the challenges that Kumail and Emily encounter more closely resemble those that a real relationship would face.

First, there is Kumail’s traditional Pakistani parents, who expect him to have an arranged marriage and don’t approve of him dating a white girl. In an attempt, not to alienate either his parents or Emily, Kumail lies to both parties about the other; which ultimately causes more problems than it solved.

It’s often the case that the expectations of one’s family (especially cultural expectations) can drive a wedge in a relationship. The film depicts Kumail’s challenge of navigating this circumstance beautifully.

One of the major obstacles to their relationship is that Emily comes down with a serious infection and is put into a medically induced coma.

Real issues like Emily’s illness are seldom touched upon in rom-coms because they are often feel-good films where the only lows are associated with the state of the relationship.

“The Big Sick” places Emily’s coma at the center of the drama, and doesn’t shy away from showing its real impact on Kumail and her parents.

The fact that “The Big Sick” is representative of the diversity of today’s America and takes on real and complex issues is a large part of what makes this film so unique and enjoyable.

We need more romantic comedies that break new ground and are emotionally challenging instead of ones that are just funny and cute. Hopefully the success of this film will inspire future rom-coms to break out of the reliable formula and add diversity and emotional depth.

By: Ethan Stark-Miller

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  1. Arleen B

    August 5, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    One of those rare films that I saw with my husband and went back a week later to see with my adult children. We all loved it and we each found something special that connected us to the story. Most impressively, great characters….loved the strong women as well as the men. After reading your review, I feel you’ve created a more positive way of looking at the genre. Perhaps your readers will be as positive and allow themselves to see a well crafted film based on true life experiences and become more thoughtful about our changing society. And have a laugh too. Maybe more than once.

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Mother of Four Who Dies After Childbirth Donates 12 of her Organs

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Source: Go Fundme

Kathleen Thorson passed away after suddenly falling ill earlier this month following the birth of her fourth child, Teddy. Though she had already brought four lives into the world through childbirth, Thorson grasped her chance to save many more through her own organ donation. 

Thorson was rushed to the emergency room when she suffered an intracerebral hemorrhage less than a week after Teddy’s birth. Despite several surgeries, doctors were unable to save her. 

Because of Thorson’s diligence in the matter, the doctors were able to donate 12 of her organs to people who desperately needed them. 

In order to raise funds for the medical bills necessary for such a donation, a GoFundMe campaign was created by Richard Stubbs, a family spokesperson. The campaign was set up five days before Thorson was rushed to the hospital. As each day passed, the gift of life became more valuable than ever.

“There aren’t many words to be said except that we love her, and we will miss her with every breath we take. Through all of this hardship, her love, life, and magic are still felt,” wrote Richard Stubbs, the organizer of the GoFundMe campaign.  

As of Febuary 18, the GoFundMe campaign had raised more than $96,000. The money is funding the Thorson family’s medical costs, funeral expenses, and to make up for the lost wages of Thorson’s husband, Jesse. 

Extra money raised was set up to go towards another one of Thorson’s dreams of building a garden for her children. The campaign ended after raising a total of $130,385. Thorson’s dying wish came true when it was revealed that she qualified as a viable donor for all of her organs.

“The nurse told Jesse the chances that someone is a candidate of this magnitude is less than 1 in a million. But anyone who knew Kathleen already knew that. We are so pleased to announce that Kathleen will be able to provide the prayed-for miracle for nearly a dozen individuals who are anxiously waiting for an organ donation,” Stubbs wrote on the GoFundMe campaign.

People from all over were able to donate to Thorson’s cause. Her story was brought to the attention of actress Kristen Bell‘s baby line, HelloBello. Kristen Bell shared Thorson’s story on her Instagram page as a true inspiration. 

The Thorson family was also highlighted in the company’s weekly ‘Tuesday of Giving.’ And awarded a year’s supply of wipes and diapers to aid them in taking care of their newborn son.

“Before she passed earlier this month, Kathleen said she wanted to save as many lives as possible and donated an almost unheard of 12 organs, including her heart and lungs,” Bell wrote in her Instagram post, honoring Kathleen.

The family was also given a medallion in memory of Thorson’s selfless organ donations. Thanks to Thorson’s kind gesture, several people have another chance of life. Thorson turned a family tragedy into a life-saving miracle.

“We would happily do anything it took to bring Kathleen back to us. But we are so grateful that someone else’s mother, daughter, father, friend, brother, sister, son or love will be coming home thanks to Kathleen’s ultimate sacrifice. We love her, and we miss her. We always will.”

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Comedian Raises Money to Send Young Austrailian Boy to Disneyland

Erin Albus



To help out a young Australian boy who has been bullied non-stop, a comedian helps raise money for the kid.
Source: Gofundme

A young boy in Australia was ruthlessly bullied at school for living with achondroplasia, a form of dwarfism. Yarraka Bayles was upset to see her son, Quaden, come home from school crying due to the bullying of his peers.

Wanting to spread awareness of how bullying can affect people, Yarraka posted a video of Quaden’s heartbreaking response. 

Since the video was posted, it has been shared over 20 millions times. It gained the attention of people all over the world, garnering support from all types of people. Seeing the story, American comedian Brad Williams set up a GoFundMe for Quaden to send the young boy to Disneyland.

In just three days, it raised $465,463 from more than 20,000 donors. This far surpassed the $10,000 goal. The comments of the GoFundMe are filled with an outpouring of support for Quaden. 

“I donated because Quaden and his mom deserve to know that the world is not populated with bullies,” one donor stated. “I’m sorry for what you’ve been through and hope the rest of your life is filled with love and kindness,” another one said. 

The money raised covers the entire cost of the trip to Disney, and the rest of the money will be sent to anti-bullying charities, including the charity Quaden’s mother set up, Stand Tall 4 Dwarfism. The goal of Stand Tall is to stop bullying with Quaden now the face of the charity. 

Some notable people have taken note of Quaden’s story. Australian actor Hugh Jackman tweeted out, “Quaden – you’ve got a friend in me.”

The National Rugby League’s Indigenous All-Stars team also showed their support for the young Australian boy. Quaden led the team out before their NRL pre-season match against the Maori All-Stars in Queensland’s Gold Coast. 

Indigineous All-Stars fullback Latrell Mitchell gave Quaden some inspiring words to help him through this emotional time: “Just want to wish you all the best brother. We know you’re going through a hard time right now but the boys are here, we’ve got your back. We’re here to support you, bud.”

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Elementary School Boy Pays off School Lunch Debt for Entire School

Erin Albus



As a solution to the school lunch debt problem one elementary school once had, an elementary school boy pays off the entire school's lunch debt to help other students get some lunch money
Source: Courtesy: April Ching

One young boy in Vancouver, Washington found a solution to his school’s lunch debt issue. 

Keoni Ching, just 8 years old, decided to make and sell keychains in order to pay back the debt. 

He wanted to do something special for his school’s Kindness Week, and so he sought to follow in many celebrities’ footsteps in paying off school lunch debt. 

In 2018, the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA) mandated that school districts crack down on student’s unpaid meals, better known as school lunch debt. They did not state how, only that the already financially struggling schools had to make up for the ever growing lunch debt. 

While groups like the School Nutrition Association (SNA) advocate for universal free school lunches, schools cannot afford to do that and pay back their debts. 

And so schools resorted to Lunch Shaming.

This can take the form of giving kids with debts different lunches, often times denying them hot meals. A school in Rhode Island decided to give students with school lunch debt peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, while all other students receive hot lunches. 

An extreme example of Lunch Shaming occurred in Pennsylvania when a local school district sent hundreds of letters telling parents who owed lunch money for their children to pay up or else their kids could go into foster care. 

“Your child has been sent to school every day without money and without breakfast and/or lunch.” the letter said, adding that failure to provide children with food could result in parents being sent to Dependency Court.

“If you are taken to Dependency court, the result may be your child being removed from your home and placed in foster care,” the letter read.

But paying off the school lunch debt is not as easy as it sounds. For many families, they cannot afford to pay back the owed lunch money—so they have to let their child be shamed. 

Hearing about the efforts of Keoni Ching, people all over the country ordered keychains. To help his cause, people would pay well above the asking price of the keychains just to give extra money to the young boy. They sold keychains to people in Rhode Island, Minnesota, and even Alaska. It was truly a country-wide effort to help Keoni. 

In total, Keoni raised over $4,000 dollars. He delivered the check to his elementary school, and the money will pay off the current debt and $500 worth of future school lunch debt students may incur. Some of the money will also go to nearby schools to help pay off their debt. 

The issue of school lunch debt and Lunch Shaming is one that will not go away without effort put in by communities. But people like Keoni show that a little bit of kindness and ingenuity can go a long way in alleviating the pressure put on struggling families by school lunch debt.

All we have to do is be kind to one another. 

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