“Most families start out with a loving and caring relationship but not for me. In my case, my relationship with my family was all different.”
Most families start out with a loving and caring relationship but not for me. In my case, my relationship with my family was all different. With my sister, for instance, I’m more open and vulnerable. I share a special bond with her because she took care of me when my mother was absent from our lives because of her drug addiction. Now, my relationship with my two brothers is a little more complicated. My oldest brother and I always bump heads. Even when I was a baby, he never liked me. My mom even told me a story about how my brother put me in a box because he didn’t want to see me in the house anymore. My youngest brother too, I could not really stand him. My mom would always force me to have him around even when I was hanging out with my friends that I felt like I had no freedom. Before my little brother was born, my sister and I lived with my grandmother while my brother lived with his aunt. He didn’t live far from us so we always got to see him. However, we did not get along well and were the farthest things from brothers, but everything changed when he went to prison for 5 years. Growing up without my brother and father, I never had anybody to look up to besides my sister. I realized that my sister was a very powerful woman and she did everything in her power to keep the family together. She worked two jobs and was in school while also supporting my brother while he was in prison. She did all of this while also going through her own struggles such as domestic violence. Knowing what she went through gave me the motivation to not become a statistic in the system. It motivated me to do better in life like attending college. When I finally got the news that my brother was coming home, I was nervous about how our relationship would be since our relationship had not been the best one growing up. However, after spending a month with my brother, I became close to him because he had changed a lot. I felt for the first time that I could relate to him and just be myself. Nowadays, I am grateful for having my siblings in my life. My family has been through a lot, and if there is one thing I’ve learned, it is that love is the only thing that will help you overcome harsh times. I’m glad I have my sister around. She has shown me what love is all about. That you can’t have love without loyalty and that you must love your family at their worst and hope they straighten out for the best. My family is now a tight knit one, filled with lots of love and compassion for one another.