“I’ve always felt sort of weird about being a late bloomer. I do feel privileged in that I did eventually have the space to explore my sexuality.”
I’ve come out to friends who know me well. Not family. It’s mainly because they probably wouldn’t understand bisexuality
. They would think that you have to be either straight or gay.
I feel like they would consider it ‘just a phase.’ I’m at a stage in my life where I’m fairly independent.
My personal life is something that my family becomes aware of on a need to know basis. I don’t know if I’ll ever come out to them. Maybe someday, but not now.
In high school, I was pretty repressed. I went to a Catholic middle school.
The message there was that being anything other than straight means that you’re going to burn in hell. Even though, at that point, I was starting to question that doctrine.
Moving into high school, subconsciously, I think I still carried it with me. I was pretty sexually repressed until around the start of junior year.
I helped a friend, who was out at the time, start the Gay-Straight Alliance, later the Queer-Straight Alliance, at my high school. By changing who I was hanging out with, I began to develop self-acceptance.
I realized it was okay to question these things. It was in senior year of high school that I started saying to people, ‘I’m figuring myself out, but I know that I’m not completely straight.’
I’ve always felt sort of weird about being a late bloomer. I do feel privileged in that I did eventually have the space to explore my sexuality. I know that’s not always the case for everyone.
We had a honeymoon stage where it seemed like LGBTQ people were having a lot more freedom to be self-expressive. It felt like there was this social progression for acceptance.
I think the Trump era has definitely reinforced the fact that this maybe not have been true. Although it’s certainly not the 50s and 60s, I think that there is still a considerable amount of struggle when it comes to being out. Especially depending on where you are.
There are pockets where people are very accepting. However, we still have a long way to go.