Being overweight, I worry about way more things than the average person. I can’t shop in a normal store to get clothes. Shopping is literally a nightmare. I even have to worry about sitting in desks at school and not being able to fit because of all the space that my body takes up.
I’m insecure about literally every part of my body. But I feel like my biggest insecurity is my double chin. I feel like if I didn’t have a double chin, the quality of my life would skyrocket.
Sure, plus-size models are bigger than other models, but as long as they have flat stomachs and no double chin, they’re considered just as beautiful. Most plus-size models aren’t even fat! They wear like a size 8 which is perfectly acceptable to society.
I think that the media portrays such a false sense of what is acceptable and what is not. The media tells us that our bodies aren’t our own in a way and I think that definitely resonates with a lot of people and correlates to their body image.
Even featured on shows like “Revenge Body,” all the people are trying to lose weight for someone else, to get back at someone, or to make someone want to be in a relationship with them. But you should only lose weight if it’s for yourself and your own health!
It’s messed up that the media makes people feel this way when none of us should have to.
I always see people posting pictures on social media where they have photoshopped or face tunned themselves to make themselves look better according to society’s standards. We really don’t have to do that, but the media keeps perpetuating an idea of what the perfect body is, and it’s making everyday people feel like we have to change ourselves to look similarly.
I think my sense of self and my body image deeply affect my emotions. I don’t really have a good self-body image, and that negatively affects my self-esteem and makes me depressed.
I’ve once had a false sense of positivity for a little while when I went on Weight Watchers and lost about 60 pounds and I thought I was looking good.
I started going on Tinder and getting a lot of matches and realized, maybe I don’t have to be skinny to find someone else that finds me attractive. But after I started getting that attention, I started to gain all the weight back.
I feel like a lot of my self-worth is what the media presents: “if you’re fat, you’re never going to end up with someone.”
My mom says that all the time, “if you look like this, nobody is going to want to be with you.”
But just finding out from firsthand experience, that what the media says isn’t necessarily true, it changed my perspective a little bit. Even though I still don’t think I have a positive body image.
I don’t feel like I’ve completely been able to positively cope with all my body image issues. I’m still dealing with that in therapy. I talk about my body image a lot with my therapist and I think it has been a really good coping method.
Just talking about it makes you realize you’re not alone in your thoughts and a lot of people feel the same way as you do. I think realizing that your body isn’t everything is so important. There’s so much more to life than the amount of space that you occupy.
Sometimes, I go out and think people are looking at me and thinking that I’m fat. But in reality, they probably aren’t even thinking about me at all.
I think we get into our own heads like that and get in our own way a lot. Once you realize you’re getting in that headspace, just take a second to breathe and be mindful of your thoughts.
Body image issues suck to deal with but at the same time, we’re still alive. There are people out there that are so big, they can’t even move because of their bodies. We should be thankful for all of our natural abilities.
If you aren’t satisfied, you are capable of changing your body. But you don’t have to change it for anyone else or conform to anything society tells us.
It’s all about self-fulfillment. Strive to be in a place where you are content with yourself and feel okay about who you are.