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Having A Good Support System

“Relationships can come and go, but having a good support system of friends will always be there.”
New York, NY
I’ve never really been in a relationship before. I do like being single, I feel like it makes me more independent. I also think that being single has made me value friendship very strongly.

I think that people sometimes undervalue the importance of having close friendships. Relationships can come and go, but having a good support system of friends will always be there.

That being said, I’ve been single for my whole life so I would like to be in a relationship. It can get lonely and I definitely am looking.

Dating apps have completely changed the way dating works. I use them myself.

I definitely have a complicated relationship with dating apps. I mostly think they’re good.

I’m extremely shy in real life and even the thought of trying to talk to someone I’m interested in gives me anxiety. I didn’t even attempt to date in high school because of the anxiety it gave me. On top of that, being a girl interested in dating other girls makes it even harder to find someone offline.

The regular anxiety along with the stream of ‘Is she straight?’ ‘What if she’s homophobic?’ ‘What if she outs me?’ in my head means that I’d probably never try to talk to a girl in real life.

Dating apps definitely ease a lot of the anxiety. I know that the people I’m talking to and going on dates with are interested in dating, even the girls.

That makes it so much easier. I’m still really shy, but at least the initial fear of rejection and embarrassment is much less.

Dating apps aren’t perfect, though. For one thing, they’re very superficial.

You’re mostly just looking at, and judging people on, their pictures. Sometimes I feel shallow for swiping a certain way for a certain person just based on looks. I wonder if I’m missing out on great people for superficial reasons.

I think it’s definitely easier to date in 2018 than it was in the past. It’s not only because the internet and dating apps give everyone easy access to other single people with similar interests. It’s also because we live in a more accepting world now.

Gay people are more free to date and be in relationships openly. Trans people can find people to date who will accept them for who they are. Interracial dating is almost universally accepted.

People who would have had it much harder in the past, looking for love, are now much more free to live and love openly.

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