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Dating In 2018

Building A Meaningful Relationship

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“I feel like social media is taking the interpersonal connection with people. Now it’s harder to build a meaningful relationship that includes meeting up for coffee and chatting.”
Philadelphia, PA
I have been in a relationship for four and a half years. The reason why we broke up is that I let bad influences from social media and engaged back in a conversation that I shouldn’t have.

I look back and I must, that I have grown in that area. Social media can be good or bad depending on how you use it.

Good in the sense that it helps people to be connected. It’s bad if you use it for bad intentions especially flirting with someone if you’re already in a relationship.

Learning from the past mistakes I only use my social media for ministry. I feel like social media is taking the interpersonal connection with people. Now it’s harder to build a meaningful relationship that includes meeting up for coffee and chatting.

Dating has changed. People tend to rely on social media to meet someone, rather than actually getting to know them on a personal level and connecting with them.

I’m an old school so for me I like to sit down and chat, take a walk in the park. But on the other hand, people tend to talk mostly on social media to the point that when you do meet up with that person there’s nothing to talk about.

I believe social media made it easier in the sense of connecting with someone and reaching out, but harder as far as building chemistry because everything that appears appealing to the eye on social media is what you see.

Social media is turning out the flame of actually learning who someone is and building true relationships by taking time to invest and asking questions. People tend to put themselves out there on social media rather than letting someone ask questions and be intentional in getting to know someone.

Rejection is something I’ve dealt with in the past and it can be hurtful but I learned that rejection can also be God showing you that, that particular person isn’t the one He has for you. Although that person rejected you, God accepted you and He has your life planned out.

The way I deal with rejection is by simply telling myself it wasn’t God’s plan and that God knows what’s best. I also prayed about it and ask God to give me strength. A “No” can sometimes be a good thing because God might be protecting you from something or someone.

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Dating In 2018

The Influence Of Dating Apps

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“Social media has taken over the dating world throughout the years. Two people are more likely to engage in dating through some social media app rather than getting coffee together.”
Philadelphia, PA
I have been in 3 different relationships over the years, 2 with the same person, but different times, and the other from Church. The relationships did not work out.

We had different aspects on Christianity. I was the ‘Church Go-er’ every Sunday and my ex-girlfriend’s was the non-Church person did not care about religion nor God. As we had our differences and dated for about a year, we ended our relationship, because of our perspectives on God & Christianity.

I’ve been single since and don’t mind it at all. I can officially start focusing on my life and career. Although being single does have some cons it, I can say that being single is a good thing.

Rejection is not an easy thing for me to overcome. I have been rejected many times in life and when I do get rejected I have to remind myself this, ‘I think God closed that door in my life for a reason.’ There are many obstacles in life that people must overcome but I have to remember that God is the one that closes doors but he opens many more in the future to come.

We know that technology has had a huge impact on every area of our lives. Dating has never been easy, and the addition of technology in our lives has both helped and hindered the dating world.

With the ease of our access to technology there is social media, text messaging, video calling, and everything in between. Technology has changed the way we communicate with one another. It is easy to see that technology changed dating a lot.

Dating over the years has changed significantly through social media. Social media has taken over the dating world throughout the years.

Two people are more likely to engage in dating through some social media app rather than getting coffee together. I have seen more people dating through some type of social media dating than an actual ‘Meet & Greet.’

For myself, I feel like dating has become so hard. It seems like nobody wants to commit anymore, and it seems to be a challenge every single step of the way.

I honestly blame dating apps for it becoming harder to date in 2018. Dating apps were actually created because people in general are always searching for perfection.

They’ve been marketed the ‘perfect partner.’ In all honesty, there is no such thing as a perfect partner.

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Dating In 2018

An Unconventional Start To A Relationship

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“My relationship started a little unconventionally, but I have never been happier. I met my current boyfriend through my college roommate.”
Philadelphia, PA
My relationship started a little unconventionally, but I have never been happier. I met my current boyfriend through my college roommate.

Her and him actually matched on Tinder and I encouraged her to invite him to our dorm, because he was hanging out a few rooms down the hall. I was in a long-distance relationship at the time and was trying to get my roommate to start dating.

When my boyfriend first came to our dorm, my roommate wouldn’t talk much. But I had nothing to lose so I talked to him.

As the weeks went on I grew closer and closer to my new boyfriend. And I grew further away from my boyfriend at the time.

I am not proud of this, but after my boyfriend broke up with me, my new boyfriend and I were hooking up the next day. It started as hooking up and quickly grew into him asking me to be his girlfriend. Now we have been together almost three years and are still going strong.

Compared to my sisters, I have had the easier time with getting boyfriends. I’ve always been the outgoing one and will want something and immediately go for it.

I have never had to go on a dating app such as Tinder, or PlentyOfFish. I prefer to go out and meet people in person, before swiping to decide if someone thinks I’m good enough to date.

Social media has completely altered the course of dating. Instead of going out and trying to find someone face-to-face, people are locked into their screens. They hope that the person that they swiped, will swipe them back.

Before you’d have to go out and try to meet people by introducing yourself and hoping that they are nice enough to respond. It seems like everyone is looking for the easy way out of trying to date.

You don’t gain any life experience if all you are doing is sitting at home on the couch waiting for someone to reply on an app, only for you to hook up with them and then them kick you to the curb or vice-versa. However, I do classify my boyfriend and I meeting to be through a dating app, even if I wasn’t the one on the app he matched with.

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Dating In 2018

Appreciating The Single Life

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“As it goes into fall and winter, and the weather starts to get cold, I want someone to snuggle up with or to go do cute romantic things with during the holidays.”
Queens, NY
I’m single and I’ve never been in a real relationship. I say real because I did have an ‘online boyfriend’ when I was like, 12, but that went nowhere.

I’ve pretty much always been single. It was never something that I cared too much about until recently.

I also still appreciate singleness. I’ve become so much more independent because of it.

I do really want romance in my life at this point. As I get older, I definitely want to experience that aspect of life and relationships.

Romance is so big in our culture, and sometimes I feel like I’m missing out. I definitely crave the attention and intimacy.

As it goes into fall and winter, and the weather starts to get cold, I want someone to snuggle up with or to go do cute romantic things with during the holidays. I feel like I’m already late to the party because the majority of people my age have already had at least one relationship before.

I do use dating apps. For me, it’s just easier. Throughout my whole life, I never met anyone organically.

I thought I might as well try meeting people in a different way. I like it because it makes dating a lot more straightforward. It’s harder to get confused about where things are going when you meet on a dating app.

I do have issues with dating apps though. People are really flaky on them and they will just ghost you for no reason. I also find them a little impersonal sometimes.

It’s hard to know someone just from a profile. Even after a first date, it’s hard to judge people on one meeting.

I’m more likely to have lingering feelings for someone I had a crush on for a while that I don’t know too well than someone I met and went on a few dates with from an app.

I also tend to go with my initial reactions. If I don’t feel anything on the first date, I lose interest pretty fast.

Dating has obviously changed a lot because of the internet. There are obviously pros and cons to it but I think it’s a good thing overall. Of course, dating is going to progress with technology just like everything else does.

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