“He was not shady, depressed, angry at the world, or looking to use me. In fact, we both wanted the same things out of the relationship.”
Staten Island, NY
Dating in 2018 is such a tedious process
. There are so many hidden agendas people have that makes it hard to trust one another.
The idea of perfect gentlemen who respect your boundaries, open doors for you, and drives you home just doesn’t exist. Basically every guy who’s ever tried speaking to me have seen me as temporary. Society just has this problem of thinking that everyone in life is temporary.
Perhaps it’s because the internet gives us the opportunity to meet so many people. This is the main difference I feel that separates our generation when dating with past generations. Either way, I had very little faith left in guys after my first two short term relationships.
The first relationship I was being strung along and ended up getting cheated on and ghosted. The second relationship I traveled four hours to a guy who hid his drug problems and secret life from me. As you can see, after these two runs I was starting to lose hope.
This was until one day when I got a message on Instagram. I was not expecting it and I was asked out on a date by a friend of a mutual friend.
He was not shady, depressed, angry at the world, or looking to use me. In fact, we both wanted the same things out of the relationship. Now we have been together almost two years and I couldn’t be happier to have him in my life.
However, in this day and age I know not everyone is as lucky as me. Not everyone has a relationship where they get to see each other multiple times a week or even at all. However, I think that my story can teach others that they should always take a leap of faith when dating.
Just because you had a bad dating history doesn’t mean that you need to give up hope. There’s someone out there for everyone and I truly believe that.
Dating in 2018 is not impossible and there is no reason why it has to be. There are millions of people in this world and I guarantee there is someone out there for each of us.