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Dating In 2018

Superficial Aspects Of Social Media

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“Pictures can tell a lot about an individual, but they do not tell the full story.”
Brooklyn, NY
Dating in 2018 has become very superficial. People I meet online and even in person tend to automatically ask about materialistic aspects of each other’s lives. Things such as vacations, cars, and clothes though are not what I want to speak about on first dates.

For me, my favorite date I’ve ever been on was a bookstore date. My current boyfriend and I met on this date and exchanged our favorite books with each other.

Having the same passion for reading and writing was something that helped us connect on a much deeper level. Talking about passions, memories, family life, etc. are things that are important to me.

However, I have had my share of bad dates where my date was not able to look past my ‘looks.’ They see pictures of me online and expect me to act or speak a certain way.

They pass judgements on me because I am ‘blonde’ or have a sports car. However, if technology wasn’t around I feel that people would get to know people for who they are. Pictures can tell a lot about an individual, but they do not tell the full story.

However, I do believe that dating in 2018 is relatively easy. My boyfriend and I do not live close, so we communicate mostly through direct messaging and video chat. Being able to still be so in touch with each other’s lives even though we aren’t physically close is amazing.

Even though we met by chance at school, our relationship would not be as strong without technology. Being able to see him laugh on camera or send him memes to make him laugh is priceless to me. Therefore, I will always be grateful for this aspect of social media and technology.

Overall, dating in 2018 is what you make of it. There are great things about technology and how it has worked in my favor in my relationship. Although, I do definitely feel that the internet has worked to make looks and wealth important.

Hopefully though, more people will be able to look pass the superficial aspects of social media. Not everyone we meet in life is going to be the way we see them portrayed on social media. Therefore, we should let them show us their true selves and not make any judgements.

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Dating In 2018

The Influence Of Dating Apps

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“Social media has taken over the dating world throughout the years. Two people are more likely to engage in dating through some social media app rather than getting coffee together.”
Philadelphia, PA
I have been in 3 different relationships over the years, 2 with the same person, but different times, and the other from Church. The relationships did not work out.

We had different aspects on Christianity. I was the ‘Church Go-er’ every Sunday and my ex-girlfriend’s was the non-Church person did not care about religion nor God. As we had our differences and dated for about a year, we ended our relationship, because of our perspectives on God & Christianity.

I’ve been single since and don’t mind it at all. I can officially start focusing on my life and career. Although being single does have some cons it, I can say that being single is a good thing.

Rejection is not an easy thing for me to overcome. I have been rejected many times in life and when I do get rejected I have to remind myself this, ‘I think God closed that door in my life for a reason.’ There are many obstacles in life that people must overcome but I have to remember that God is the one that closes doors but he opens many more in the future to come.

We know that technology has had a huge impact on every area of our lives. Dating has never been easy, and the addition of technology in our lives has both helped and hindered the dating world.

With the ease of our access to technology there is social media, text messaging, video calling, and everything in between. Technology has changed the way we communicate with one another. It is easy to see that technology changed dating a lot.

Dating over the years has changed significantly through social media. Social media has taken over the dating world throughout the years.

Two people are more likely to engage in dating through some social media app rather than getting coffee together. I have seen more people dating through some type of social media dating than an actual ‘Meet & Greet.’

For myself, I feel like dating has become so hard. It seems like nobody wants to commit anymore, and it seems to be a challenge every single step of the way.

I honestly blame dating apps for it becoming harder to date in 2018. Dating apps were actually created because people in general are always searching for perfection.

They’ve been marketed the ‘perfect partner.’ In all honesty, there is no such thing as a perfect partner.

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Dating In 2018

An Unconventional Start To A Relationship

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“My relationship started a little unconventionally, but I have never been happier. I met my current boyfriend through my college roommate.”
Philadelphia, PA
My relationship started a little unconventionally, but I have never been happier. I met my current boyfriend through my college roommate.

Her and him actually matched on Tinder and I encouraged her to invite him to our dorm, because he was hanging out a few rooms down the hall. I was in a long-distance relationship at the time and was trying to get my roommate to start dating.

When my boyfriend first came to our dorm, my roommate wouldn’t talk much. But I had nothing to lose so I talked to him.

As the weeks went on I grew closer and closer to my new boyfriend. And I grew further away from my boyfriend at the time.

I am not proud of this, but after my boyfriend broke up with me, my new boyfriend and I were hooking up the next day. It started as hooking up and quickly grew into him asking me to be his girlfriend. Now we have been together almost three years and are still going strong.

Compared to my sisters, I have had the easier time with getting boyfriends. I’ve always been the outgoing one and will want something and immediately go for it.

I have never had to go on a dating app such as Tinder, or PlentyOfFish. I prefer to go out and meet people in person, before swiping to decide if someone thinks I’m good enough to date.

Social media has completely altered the course of dating. Instead of going out and trying to find someone face-to-face, people are locked into their screens. They hope that the person that they swiped, will swipe them back.

Before you’d have to go out and try to meet people by introducing yourself and hoping that they are nice enough to respond. It seems like everyone is looking for the easy way out of trying to date.

You don’t gain any life experience if all you are doing is sitting at home on the couch waiting for someone to reply on an app, only for you to hook up with them and then them kick you to the curb or vice-versa. However, I do classify my boyfriend and I meeting to be through a dating app, even if I wasn’t the one on the app he matched with.

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Dating In 2018

Appreciating The Single Life

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“As it goes into fall and winter, and the weather starts to get cold, I want someone to snuggle up with or to go do cute romantic things with during the holidays.”
Queens, NY
I’m single and I’ve never been in a real relationship. I say real because I did have an ‘online boyfriend’ when I was like, 12, but that went nowhere.

I’ve pretty much always been single. It was never something that I cared too much about until recently.

I also still appreciate singleness. I’ve become so much more independent because of it.

I do really want romance in my life at this point. As I get older, I definitely want to experience that aspect of life and relationships.

Romance is so big in our culture, and sometimes I feel like I’m missing out. I definitely crave the attention and intimacy.

As it goes into fall and winter, and the weather starts to get cold, I want someone to snuggle up with or to go do cute romantic things with during the holidays. I feel like I’m already late to the party because the majority of people my age have already had at least one relationship before.

I do use dating apps. For me, it’s just easier. Throughout my whole life, I never met anyone organically.

I thought I might as well try meeting people in a different way. I like it because it makes dating a lot more straightforward. It’s harder to get confused about where things are going when you meet on a dating app.

I do have issues with dating apps though. People are really flaky on them and they will just ghost you for no reason. I also find them a little impersonal sometimes.

It’s hard to know someone just from a profile. Even after a first date, it’s hard to judge people on one meeting.

I’m more likely to have lingering feelings for someone I had a crush on for a while that I don’t know too well than someone I met and went on a few dates with from an app.

I also tend to go with my initial reactions. If I don’t feel anything on the first date, I lose interest pretty fast.

Dating has obviously changed a lot because of the internet. There are obviously pros and cons to it but I think it’s a good thing overall. Of course, dating is going to progress with technology just like everything else does.

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