“Dating is just so complicated and hiding ourselves behind fake personas online isn’t helping anyone.”
New York, NY
For me I find it very hard to date, especially in the era that we live in.
I see all my friends on dating apps swiping and messaging practical strangers and making plans to meet. However, I just don’t trust the internet ever since I was cat fished in high school.
Back then I wasn’t very outgoing and guys never noticed me. This was until one day when I got a message from an adorable guy who seemed to like me. We had so many similar interests and would message each other every day.
However, a few months in he finally came clean to me. The truth was that he was actually someone I knew from school. He was dared to write me on a fake account by his friends as a joke.
Once I found out I blocked him. I was just so heartbroken. I couldn’t believe that the first guy I really let down my walls for was a fraud. The rejection was so difficult to deal with but it helped me to grow thick skin as well.
Now while I have been on plenty of first and second dates, I have yet to find “the one.” This is probably why I am still single, besides of the fact that I am rather picky. However, I do enjoy being single and not being tied down while I am still young.
Dating is just so complicated and hiding ourselves behind fake personas online isn’t helping anyone. This is why I prefer to be set up on dates by friends or to be asked out in person.
While I know I could have so many more opportunities to meet potential boyfriends online, I just prefer not to. I’d much rather have an in-person connection than an emoji fueled connection. This is becoming so much rarer though I feel, especially chance encounters.
However, I will not give up hope on finding my true love. Just because dating has changed since previous generations doesn’t mean it has necessarily changed for the worst. There are still so many hardworking genuine people looking for love and I hope I’ll be able to find them.
So while I’ll be dating in an old-fashioned manner for the time being, I think it’s for the best. As it is dating in 2018 is filled with challenges, so why make it harder than it has to be!