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“I think realizing that your body isn’t everything is so important. There’s so much more to life than the space that you occupy.”
Long Island, NY
Being overweight, I worry about way more things than the average person. I can’t shop in a normal store to get clothes. Shopping is literally a nightmare.

I even have to worry about sitting in desks at school and not being able to fit because of all the space that my body takes up.

I’m insecure about literally every part of my body. But I feel like my biggest insecurity is my double chin. I feel like if I didn’t have a double chin, the quality of my life would skyrocket.

Sure, plus size models are bigger than other models, but as long as they have flat stomachs and no double chin, they’re considered just as beautiful. Most plus size models aren’t even fat! They wear like a size 8 which is perfectly acceptable to society.

I think that the media portrays such a false sense of what is acceptable and what is not. The media tells us that our bodies aren’t our own in a way and I think that definitely resonates with a lot of people and correlates to their body image.

Even shows like Revenge Body, all the people are trying to lose weight for someone else, to get back at someone, or to make someone want to be with them. But you should only lose weight if it’s for yourself and your health!

It’s messed up that the media makes people feel this way when none of us should have to.

I always see people posting pictures on social media where they are photoshopping or facetuning themselves to make them look better. We really don’t have to do that but the media keeps perpetrating the idea of the perfect body, and it’s making everyday people feel like we do have to.

I think my sense of self and my body image deeply affect my emotions. I don’t really have a good sense of my body image, and that negatively affects my self-esteem and makes me depressed.

I’ve once had a false sense of positivity for a little while, when I went on Weight Watchers and lost about 60 pounds and I thought I was looking good.

I started going on Tinder and getting a lot of matches and realized, maybe I don’t have to be skinny to find someone else that finds me attractive. But after I started getting that attention, I started to gain all the weight back.

I feel like a lot of my self-worth is what the media presents:’ if you’re fat, you’re never going to end up with someone. ‘My mom says that all the time. ‘if you look like this, nobody is going to want to be with you.’

But just finding out from firsthand experience, that that isn’t necessarily true changed my perspective a little bit, even though I still don’t think I have a positive body image.

I don’t feel like I’ve completely been able to healthily cope with all my body image issues. I’m still dealing with that in therapy. I talk about my body image a lot with my therapist and I think that’s a really good coping method.

Just talking about it makes you realize you’re not alone in your thoughts and a lot of people feel the same way you do. I think realizing that your body isn’t everything is so important. There’s so much more to life than the space that you occupy.

Sometimes, I go out and think people are looking at me and thinking that I’m fat. But in reality, they probably aren’t even thinking about me.

I think we get into our own heads like that and get in our own way a lot. Once you realize you’re getting in that headspace, just take a second to breathe and be mindful of your thoughts.

Body image issues suck to deal with but at the same time, we’re still alive. There are people out there that are so big, they can’t even move because of their bodies, so we should be thankful for all of our abilities.

And you’re capable of changing your body. You don’t have to change it for anyone else or conform to anything society tells us.

It’s all about self-fulfillment. Just strive to be in a place where you are content with yourself and feel okay about who you are.

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“You should strive to become a better version of your own self.”
Killingworth, CT
I’m most insecure of my stomach because every time I eat, I feel like it looks a lot bigger. It feels uncomfortable and looks weird to me, compared to the perfect bodies we see through the media, all day every day.

We are conditioned to believe that the standards we see in the media are what we should strive for in real life, no matter how unattainable they really are. This creates expectations that are extremely difficult to meet in people’s perspectives of themselves, but also in how they expect others to be or look like.

Social media makes us constantly compare ourselves to everyone. It makes us feel jealous and inferior to models that have perfectly thin bodies.

It starts to make us even feel worse about ourselves because of the way everyday people try to put out the best image of themselves as possible even if it’s fake like photoshopped or edited with an app.

Constantly seeing perfect people, living perfect lives, that people show off on social media, have an impact in the way people see themselves and others, and ultimately how they live their lives.

When my body is in better shape, I feel much more confident and my self-esteem is higher. But when I’m not in good shape, I feel a lot worse about myself.

When I make an effort to start eating better and working out regularly, I feel better not only physically, but mentally and emotionally in the way I see myself. But during times where I’m not motivated about my health, I’m a lot more self-conscious and down on myself.

I wish I could just be light without having to worry about what I eat. At the end of the day, eating healthy and working out makes me feel better about myself, and it’s how I try to cope with my insecurities when I’m not feeling great about my body.

You should learn to love your body for your own self, and not because society stereotypically says you should.

You should not try to live your life trying to be someone you wish you could be, but rather strive to become a better version of your own self.

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“It doesn’t really matter what you look like, but it matters how you feel about yourself.”
Monroe, CT
I think high school was where everyone started having insecurities.

High school is a very interesting place for most people, including myself. I was taller than most of the girls at school so it was already different for me.

Thinking about it now, I always perceived myself as bigger than the other girls when really I wasn’t. I used to have problems with my legs and stomach, and thought I was just on the chubby side.

I just had no idea what my body was doing to me at the time. I’d just tell myself that I would just start being healthy and watch what I eat. I ended up not eating.

That spiraled out of control to the point where I ended up being anorexic. It just got out of control for the most part.

While I was going through that, I still thought I was bigger than other girls. When people talk about body image issues, it is always perceived as being overweight or eating too much.

Anorexia is not being talked about when it comes to these types of issues and I think it should be. Anyways, I did end up going to therapy for about two years and that helped a lot.

My therapist was also a nutritionist, so she showed me what healthy things to eat without starving myself. She showed me I could eat and that I did not have to starve myself.

She also taught me to take better care of myself such as working out and meditating. I needed that more than anything.

Growing up, social media wasn’t as popular as it is now. I would say social media definitely plays a huge role when it comes to body image issues and insecurities in general.

Seeing all these Instagram models showing their perfect bodies really takes a toll on the girl or guy who doesn’t look like them.

We aren’t meant to look alike. It doesn’t really matter what you look like, but it matters how you feel about yourself.

Whether I gain weight or lose weight, it is okay at the end of the day because that’s not what’s important in life. What’s important is how I am to reach happiness in life.

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“You have to say, ‘I love my body,’ and remind yourself that.”
NY
I think that body image has affected me emotionally.

As we all know, since the media portrays unrealistic bodies and women edited down until they aren’t really like real people, young girls are affected and compare themselves to everyone. That’s in the back of their minds.

I’ve done it too—looking in the mirror and pinpointing all of the things I hate about myself, but people say, ‘no, it starts with you.’

You have to say, ‘I love my body,’ and remind yourself that. But I think we are taught to nitpick everything about ourselves.

Your friends affect your body confidence as well. I have really great friends that push me up and say I look good, which makes me feel good.

Someone you genuinely care about telling you ‘you look really nice’ helps. Surround yourself with people who push you up.

There are also people surrounded by friends that push them down, and I think that really affects body image because you think if somebody else thinks it, it must be true.

To add on, I did research about this my junior year of high school. I wrote a 12-page paper about the representation of women in the advertising world, so the main thing is how people are photoshopped to look unrealistic. It’s a very important, present issue, and I think a lot needs to change to be where we should be.

Also, obviously, Instagram is a major part of that—posting yourself and a life that isn’t necessarily real, and more of girls comparing themselves to each other. It’s a big issue.

But I also think people don’t realize that companies are going in the right direction and that’s a really great thing. Aerie stopped retouching their ads, though they still choose certain types of girls.

Or even Eileen Fisher—it’s not a popular teenage brand because it’s more expensive, but they focus on these older women who are really living their lives and are smart and powerful; I think that’s really nice.

Teach yourself every day to look in the mirror and say ‘this is what I love about my body’ rather than this is what I don’t like about it.’

My favorite part of my body is my arms, and I’ve always really liked having freckles. I used to have more of them and I actually miss them. My arms also have my freckles, so I think that’s why I like them.

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