“I think realizing that your body isn’t everything is so important. There’s so much more to life than the space that you occupy.”
Being overweight, I worry about way more things than the average person. I can’t shop in a normal store to get clothes. Shopping is literally a nightmare.
I even have to worry about sitting in desks at school and not being able to fit because of all the space that my body takes up.
I’m insecure about literally every part of my body. But I feel like my biggest insecurity is my double chin. I feel like if I didn’t have a double chin, the quality of my life would skyrocket.
Sure, plus size models are bigger than other models, but as long as they have flat stomachs and no double chin, they’re considered just as beautiful. Most plus size models aren’t even fat! They wear like a size 8 which is perfectly acceptable to society.
I think that the media portrays such a false sense of what is acceptable and what is not. The media tells us that our bodies aren’t our own in a way and I think that definitely resonates with a lot of people and correlates to their body image.
Even shows like Revenge Body, all the people are trying to lose weight for someone else, to get back at someone, or to make someone want to be with them. But you should only lose weight if it’s for yourself and your health!
It’s messed up that the media makes people feel this way when none of us should have to.
I always see people posting pictures on social media where they are photoshopping or facetuning themselves to make them look better. We really don’t have to do that but the media keeps perpetrating the idea of the perfect body, and it’s making everyday people feel like we do have to.
I think my sense of self and my body image deeply affect my emotions. I don’t really have a good sense of my body image, and that negatively affects my self-esteem and makes me depressed.
I’ve once had a false sense of positivity for a little while, when I went on Weight Watchers and lost about 60 pounds and I thought I was looking good.
I started going on Tinder and getting a lot of matches and realized, maybe I don’t have to be skinny to find someone else that finds me attractive. But after I started getting that attention, I started to gain all the weight back.
I feel like a lot of my self-worth is what the media presents:’ if you’re fat, you’re never going to end up with someone. ‘My mom says that all the time. ‘if you look like this, nobody is going to want to be with you.’
But just finding out from firsthand experience, that that isn’t necessarily true changed my perspective a little bit, even though I still don’t think I have a positive body image.
I don’t feel like I’ve completely been able to healthily cope with all my body image issues. I’m still dealing with that in therapy. I talk about my body image a lot with my therapist and I think that’s a really good coping method.
Just talking about it makes you realize you’re not alone in your thoughts and a lot of people feel the same way you do. I think realizing that your body isn’t everything is so important. There’s so much more to life than the space that you occupy.
Sometimes, I go out and think people are looking at me and thinking that I’m fat. But in reality, they probably aren’t even thinking about me.
I think we get into our own heads like that and get in our own way a lot. Once you realize you’re getting in that headspace, just take a second to breathe and be mindful of your thoughts.
Body image issues suck to deal with but at the same time, we’re still alive. There are people out there that are so big, they can’t even move because of their bodies, so we should be thankful for all of our abilities.
And you’re capable of changing your body. You don’t have to change it for anyone else or conform to anything society tells us.
It’s all about self-fulfillment. Just strive to be in a place where you are content with yourself and feel okay about who you are.