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What Does it Mean to be a Woman Today? 10+ Stories By Women

Women see the world through different lenses. Each of them have a unique experience to share. Check out these stories by women.

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Every year the discussions about women’s rights and roles seems to increase as more young voices join the ranks to speak up against tradition and oppression, and older voices are inspired to lend themselves to the fight, too.

They don’t all sing in unison. Some are shouting, some are quiet; some outraged, and others hopeful.

The stories gathered here come from different perspectives. You’ll find a lot of younger ones concerned with their future: what jobs are open to me? What about my dreams? What will my relationship to my family be from here?

A lot of the older voices speak about strength, friendship, or love. They make blunt observations and take lessons from their own past.

Where do you find your voice falling? Are you ready to issue calls to action? Or do you like to debate, to understand? Do you think about these things in terms of your own life, or on a grand scale?

There are so many interesting thoughts that come from reading these different stories. Some of these women have fascinating ideas about what makes women unique, and what are the most important parts of womanhood, whereas others emphasize the ways that women are just as good as men in this and that way, even though history has tried to claim otherwise.

Go ahead and read these stories by women, and you’ll find yourself in some of them; and in the rest you’ll find some of the new ideas about what it means to be a woman today.

The Strength of Women

“Being a woman is the greatest gift from God. Having the ability to bring a life in the world and nurture from a baby to an adult is the greatest feeling ever.”
Atlanta, GA

Being a woman is the greatest gift from God. Having the ability to bring a life in the world and nurture from a baby to an adult is the greatest feeling ever.

Women are so strong and diverse with everything that’s going on in the world. Being a woman is being the strongest backbone of society for having a lot on your shoulder.

Family, kids, husband, job and still being able to contain your sanity.  Some of the challenges of being a woman today is having the opportunity to get equal pay to your male counterparts.

Being able to be respected of your job and not being looked over because you are a female. Being a woman comes with so many lessons. I have learned to be headstrong in the American society coming from Trinidad. I had to toughen up in my language and even my character in order to survive.

It’s crazy to say it, but I had to. Learning to be patient and understanding of the different culture and learn how to fit in was the hardest thing, but I learned how to make sure my voice was always heard, and I didn’t lose myself as a strong and powerful woman.

I wouldn’t change my life for the world. If I had done things differently I wouldn’t have seen the growth in my life and where I am at today.

I thank God every day for my life. I have a beautiful life. I am a queen. I have a beautiful husband who loves and worships the ground I walk on. I have two beautiful kids.

And I am always surrounded by beautiful people who has my best interest at heart. Though being a woman has its bad days, I am happy with being one and still learning as life goes on.

Womanhood is Self-Defined

“Being a woman is about being strong and challenging the notion that you are supposed to be in a specific box.”
Bukoba, Tanzania

To me, being a woman is about being strong and challenging the notion that you are supposed to be in a specific box; defying convention and getting out of the typical traditional roles that were set for women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a traditional woman who has a family and is nurturing and cleans the household.But for me, I am not limited to these roles. Womanhood is self-defined because of course I want a family and children, but I also want to have my own company and a career. What’s wrong with doing both?

Being a woman requires a lot of strength. Whether we like it or not, women are second-class citizens. We will always have to work twice as hard.

So much is expected of women. We have this pressure to not only meet expectations but exceed them to prove that we can do more and get out of the box.

Not only that, but it’s hard to reach your goals when you see other women trying to break each other down. It’s so sad. But the reality is that we live in a male-dominated culture.

If you have certain goals, you need to put yourself in a position where you will succeed. You need to be emotionless and do what you need to do to be successful. In my opinion, women are not naturally ruthless in this circumstance, but our society has shaped us to climb our way to the top.

In Tanzania, women empowerment is very strong. Is women empowerment as a topic supported by our society? Not so much.

We are very traditional people. However, the community of women who support each other to go above and beyond is very strong. Women especially support each other to be their own boss and become business owners in agriculture.

My personal take on women empowerment is women supporting other women to reach their goals, by any means necessary. I personally believe that some men are intimidated by what women can accomplish when we support each other. However, women cannot allow any external forces to blur our vision, or influence what our aspirations are.

Women Should Stand Together to Make a Change

“Stereotypes of what a woman is supposed to be or act like are restrictive.”
Utica, NY

Being a woman not only means to be nurturing and caring, but also being powerful. My older cousin has inspired me to be who I am as a woman.She’s taught me to not let other people’s perceptions of me bring me down or define me. I grew up as a tomboy, I did whatever I wanted without any limitations.

Most of my cousins are male. I have a brother and I hung around my uncles a lot so I did everything with them.

My older female cousin and I grew up as tomboys, and we didn’t fit the gender stereotype of what being a ‘girl’ means. We weren’t ‘girly girls’.

I didn’t realize that until I went to middle school that there were certain things that girls were supposed to do and certain things that boys are supposed to do. When I was at school, the boys would always bother me and say that I’m supposed to play with dolls while they went to play with trucks. There were all these gender stereotypes, like I was supposed to wear pink, but I hate pink. Why would I wear pink? These stereotypes of what a girl or a woman is supposed to be or act like are restrictive.

I think it’s so important for women to support each other by creating solidarity so that we can uplift each other. Especially because in our society, men are definitely considered as dominant and women are ‘supposed’ to be subordinate. The power dynamics in our society won’t change unless women come together despite who they are or where they come from and stand together to make a change.

The Power of a Woman

“Let’s stop defining ourselves by our gender. Let’s define ourselves by what we wake up and do every day.”
Boston, MA

When I think about being a woman, I think about how that is different from being a man. And one thing that stands out is a woman’s sensuality. There’s just something about a woman’s body and the energy that exudes from her. Men just don’t have this. Not like a woman.

There’s a mystery and an intrigue in women of all shapes and sizes, all nationalities and of all ages. There’s a specialness and strength in the sensuousness.I respect and admire this sensuality in women, and many times, I behold it in wonder. This is not to say women are sex symbols or objects. I guess they can be such, and often they are, or maybe often society makes them such.

But I find power and strength in a woman’s sensuality—sex appeal—that I think gives women, or should give women, a unique sense of self and an inner calm and confidence of spirit.

I fancy myself a feminist, though that word has become, to me, a little passé. And I feel in some ways I should speak about women being equal to men and that I should be on trend singing out from the mountain tops that it’s a woman’s time to stand up for her rights and that a woman’s day has come.

But frankly, this conversation kinda bores me. It sounds like a broken record to me. It sounds like talk and the same talk that’s been going on for years. I prefer action. And not just pussy hats on the square and women banding together. I’m sure this feels powerful and I’m sure it’s unifying. I have a lot of female friends and when I get together with them, let me tell you…it’s powerful and energizing. I LOVE THEM! (And they are all very sensual and powerful in presence by the way.)

But I am not empowered by this ‘I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar’ stuff. I’m not naive to the issues we face in society when it comes to gender equality. But I also just sometimes feel like, let’s not whine about it. I’m kinda sick of talking in terms of gender. I was actually a little miffed by the idea of talking here, about what I like about being a woman. Feels, you know, like a chick thing to do. I’m not sure I’d see men writing about ‘Why I Love Being a Man.’

And maybe that’s the problem. Let’s stop defining ourselves by our gender. Let’s define ourselves by our abilities, our strength of character, our choices and our actions. Let’s define ourselves by what we wake up and do every day. I don’t wake up and think about being a woman. I wake up and think: what am I going to accomplish today?

I like being a woman because I possess an inner strength and attitude, an inner beauty and natural sensuality that gives me the confidence to tackle each day with the kind of passion, excellence and dare I say, superiority, that ‘that other gender,’ in my opinion, just can’t light a candle to.

I just like being a woman.

Our Expression of Gender

“The media creates values that never exist, and women are subconsciously left feeling pressure to conform and act accordingly.”
Syracuse, NY

I think there are definitely still stereotypes of women portrayed in the media. The media creates values that never exist, and women are subconsciously left feeling pressure to conform and act accordingly.

I think it can be dangerous because we digest so much media content, whether it be things we purposely consume like TV shows and movies, or the social cues and popular cultural trends that we passively experience. Because we see it everywhere, it inherently normalizes what we see, no matter how inaccurate or misrepresenting it may be.

All of these media encounters in our everyday lives give us images of what people are supposed to be like, particularly for women because their standards are especially trivialized by the media.

Overall, at the core, a lot of the media represents women as fragile and dependent on others, and not really in control of themselves and it does this with a strategy. It has implications on our society that basically creates a blueprint or guideline for what women should be; but these are not real values. Everything we see is just created by the people in power that have control over the media.

I think being a woman can mean so many different things. We should never strive to come up with one image of what a woman should be. We don’t have to categorize women into what is ideal and what isn’t, like the media usually does. We should just allow women to be whoever they want to be without having to justify it.

You should never have to try to dress, or act, or be any particular way at all, but especially not in the way the media tries to influence us in our expression of gender.

Let Women Be Who They Want to Be

“Women empowerment is letting women be who they want to be.”
Dolgeville, NY

Being a woman means anyone who identifies as a woman. That idea didn’t really come to me until college because I was from such a small, conservative town and there wasn’t really any type of gender variation or a transgender student. Before that, I’ve always known ‘if you were born with a vagina, you’re a girl, if you’re born with a penis you’re a boy’. I understood gender variations briefly and my mom told me to accept it, but it didn’t click to me until I came to college.

Women empowerment is letting women be who they want to be. How I have personally experienced woman empowerment was through college. When I was a first-year student, I was surrounded by really strong women who I could look up to and who really taught me about self-love and body positivity and that it’s okay to talk about mental health. I’ve always looked up to these women because they were so unapologetic in their views.

So, I really try to be like them for younger students. But, it actually comes with a lot of pressure because all of a sudden, I have people messaging me or commenting that I’m their hero or that I have a positive influence on them.

It’s a great thing but it comes with a lot of pressure because not every day I feel this way. It’s really easy to feel body confident when my skin is clear, it’s summer, I’m tan and I’m eating fruit every day. It’s not so easy in the middle of winter, when your skin is breaking out and you have five papers due and you don’t feel like being nice that day. I think it’s important to practice what you preach but also practice self-healing.

Women need to be unified now more than ever, especially because of our current political climate, but that also means ALL women. It’s recognizing that ‘yes,’ we can all come together on certain women’s issues but also there’s so much intersectionality.

A perfect example is that white women were able to vote first, then Asian women, then Hispanic women, and then black women. We all have similar goals but because of the systems set in place, we don’t all reach those goals at the same time, which is why we need to stay unified.

I personally love the quote by Audre Lorde that states: ‘I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.’ Remember that some of your ‘heroes’ are not necessarily heroes. Especially some suffragettes that were trying to vote for women’s rights did that by putting down their black sisters and brothers. So just be mindful of history, it’s okay to have heroes but look at them through a critical eye, always.

You Can Achieve Your Dreams

“I don’t doubt that I can achieve my dreams even if things look bleak now. Other women should have that mindset no matter what society tells them.”
Orange County, NY

Being a young college woman, I am in the process of preparing myself for graduation and it is difficult. While counting down the days until graduation, I always ask myself ‘Did I use my college experience to its fullest?’

Also, I wonder if I used every resource that was available to me. My major is communications arts with a focus in broadcast & digital content production. I would like to be able to say that I am not worried, but it’s tough competition out there. I feel like I always have to put that extra effort in to show that I have the qualifications like everyone else, especially a man.

Everyday is a challenge to make sure my resume is on par as I’m always searching for internships and entry-level jobs because they all require some sort of experience. I also feel that my field is a very male driven field, so when you do see women, I feel like they are not always receiving their due credit.

I’m actually afraid of what my future will entail after graduation because it is a mystery. But on the other hand, I don’t doubt that I can achieve my dreams even if things look bleak now. I know I’m going to get that internship and my dream job. Other women should have that mindset no matter what society tells them.

Womanhood Includes Intersectionality

“It’s so important for women to come together. As much as we are individuals, we are a community.”
Watkins Glen, NY

To be a woman means to be powerful and being inspiring towards others. It means to be supportive. It’s such a blessing to be part of a community that I call womanhood and the female community which is incredibly large and covers so many things. It’s important to note that womanhood and being a woman also includes intersectionality. It’s important that we all experience empowerment as women and to support and empower others.

Being at college has been such a great opportunity for me. Coming into this community not knowing a lot about myself and not being the most empowered person, I have definitely learned to empower myself and empower others through the things that I do. I have a great group of female friends who are incredibly inspiring. I wouldn’t be the woman that I am today if it weren’t for the strong women in my life and my experiences here.

It’s so important for women to come together. As much as we are individuals, we are a community. We need to stand together and unite together despite any boundaries.

People all over this world are being oppressed in various ways and the more that we come together to fight oppression, be understanding of each other and unite, only then will we have the ability to make moves and impact this world. It’s about time that women all over the world come together and stand with each other. Reach out and start the conversation about women empowerment.

Make your voice heard and surround yourself with inspiring women who are willing to speak up and speak out with you.

A Wife and a Mother

“I think if I were filling out a form and they asked, ‘what work experience do you have?’, I would say I was a homemaker and I don’t feel ashamed of that.”
The Berkshires, MA

Let me begin with my marriage, and that was a long time ago. That was 50 some years ago and I am now 90. In that period of my life, I never thought anything of myself other than as a wife and a mother, and I had no ambitions to be anything other than a wife and a mother.

I was very fortunate to be able to work at a local museum as a guide, or a docent, and I loved that work. I also audited courses at Williams so that I could learn an enormous amount about art and art history and also how to present art primarily to children to encourage them to see for themselves. So, I felt that I had a very happy life.

I was happy in my marriage, happy with my children, and happy with the work that I had which could easily be integrated into my personal life.

I think if I were filling out a form and they asked, ‘what work experience do you have?’, I would say I was a homemaker and I don’t feel ashamed of that. I had no ambitions in myself to be a professional woman or to be a leader. I admire people who aspire to be that, but it was not an aspiration for me.

Women in Today’s Time

“We, as women, have to empower ourselves and show the young girls they can be whatever they want to be no matter what.”
Newburgh, NY

Being a women in today’s time means being two-folded in regards to taking care of our family while also being helpmates to our husbands.

Being a woman comes with a lot of adversity because in many ways, we have to carry the family. Many years ago, men would step out on their wives and family for whatever reason, which would lead the women to take sole responsibility of the household.

They would have to not only take care of the kids and the household by themselves but also work to pay the bills, let alone having to maintain ourselves as women.

This cycle, in many ways, is still going on today. As a woman, you develop tough skin because that’s the only way you’re going to last. Being a woman is time-consuming. There are very little moments for yourself to relax because you are always stretched thin from your family, to your husband, to your daily job and duties.

Being in the workplace as a black woman, you experience racism and harassment. They are distinguishably common. The stereotypes and glass ceilings women have to experience are ridiculous. You have to go out and show your worth every day. You have to show that your work ethics are better than theirs. You have to show you’re worth the position plus more.

We, as women, have to empower ourselves and show the young girls they can be whatever they want to be no matter what. You also have to teach girls to know themselves and their worth. There are so many reality shows and celebrities that give women a bad misguided representation to young people. That’s why I feel like there is a lack of respect for women.

I feel that if more movies such as Hidden figures were made, it would give more women a sense of purpose. It would move culture of women forward in ways that no man nor stereotype can stop. Being a woman means to be powerful, protective, nurturing. We have to show that more often, not only for us but for future generations.

Embrace Women Empowerment

“Women are so strong to me because throughout history we have been put down and pushed to our limits in all cultures and in every race.”
Hilo, HI

Being a woman to me is so much more than being a regular person in everyday life. When I was younger, I was always taught from a matriarchal sense, that women hold the power. That we are the ones who make the decisions and provide to the community. We are the ones who keep things together and hold things ‘pa’a’, strong.

Women are so strong to me because throughout history we have been put down and pushed to our limits in all cultures and in every race. Women have been seen as a much lower part of society and for them to deal with everything and still push through and be who they are; taking care of families and love people unconditionally, is so empowering to me.

It wasn’t until I went to college that I really embraced women empowerment because at home, I’ve already learned about how important women are, so I’ve never really seen it. It was just a normal thing. But you realize how amazing it is, when you’re surrounded by such strong women and women who are also growing and reaching those limits of being comfortable with who they are. Women empowerment is being who you want to be without any limitations.

No matter what your race is, where you come from or what your background is, women need to support women. All women are beautiful, all women are strong, and it takes other people to realize that and to empower each other rather than tear each other down.

You hear women all the time tearing down each other about what they wear or what they do, that’s not what we need. We need to support each other and empower each other. In the past, society has always brought women to the point of destruction, making us feel as though we’re not important when, in actuality, women are now realizing who they are and that they are the key to humankind.

Pa’a is a Hawai’ian term for keeping it together. To me, women are the glue that keeps everything together. My mom always told me when I was younger to keep my core pa’a, to keep it tight. Not only in a physical sense, but also in a spiritual and emotional way. Women empowerment is such an important part of keeping your core strong and realizing who you are. Know your values and find your strengths within yourself.

Society’s Expectations of Women

“A woman can be whatever she wants to be and shouldn’t let society’s expectations influence how she chooses to live her life.”
East Setauket, NY
When I was around nine years old, there was a popular perfume commercial where a super confident, beautiful, professional, sexy woman sings: ‘I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never never never let you forget you’re a man! Cause I’m a woman!’ Everyone knew that commercial by heart, even nine-year-old me. I saw this woman who could be the perfect mother, wife, and professional woman and that is what I pictured my life as a woman being.

And when I grew up and got married and started my career, I was on track for becoming that woman. But when I became a mother, things didn’t work out quite the way I had imagined.

I thought I would be able to stay home with my first child just through her toddler years and then get right back to my career, but then I had another baby, and another; and then my first was diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder. And by the time my third was also diagnosed with ASD, I realized I wasn’t going back to work.

My kids needed me home full time through all of their school years. I don’t regret my decision to stay home, but I do occasionally get that look of pity from some people when they ask me what I do for a living and I say I’m a stay at home mom.

The thing that hurts the most about those pity looks is that they are mostly from other women. And that’s just not cool. Wasn’t the point of feminism to allow women to be able to make our own decisions about what is right for us? I made the decision to stay home. It wasn’t so ‘a man can take care of me.’ It was so I could take care of my children, especially because they had/have special needs.

But I guess I can forgive the women who pity me; they probably saw the perfume ad too and also thought that all women are supposed to be like the Enjoli woman. But now I know a woman can be whatever she wants to be and shouldn’t let society’s expectations influence how she chooses to live her life.

Women Should Demand to Be Heard

“Women should be strong and true to themselves.”
New Hampshire

From looking back at my life, I feel that I was a very fortunate woman. I was brought up to feel very strong and very committed and with the belief that all people should be treated equally. I ended up having a good lifestyle because of that.

The work force was a real blessing for me because I found that I was treated as one of the men, and back in those days it wasn’t a very common thing, but it’s what I more or less demanded in my two jobs. I worked at a private school for ten years and then a leather company for 25 years. I always had my own private office, was always treated with respect, and always had a good salary, so I feel those were the best things about life.

If you stand up for yourself, then that’s how you are treated.To me, being a woman means being true to yourself. It also means being strong, being kind, being independent, and treating people as you want to be treated without feeling that you’re better than other people.

There is so much going on in the world today with women wanting to be heard and feeling it’s time to stand up for themselves, and that’s how I feel women should be. Women should stand up for themselves. Women should demand to be heard. Women shouldn’t let other people get away with doing things that aren’t right, or are far worse than not right. Women have to be on equal ground as most men, but you know, not all men are strong. Women should be strong and true to themselves.

Never Let Anyone Discourage You

“Being a woman and a mother, you have many characteristics such as being strong, independent, nurture and just basically get the job done for yourself and your family.”
Spring Valley, NY
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Being a woman and a mother, you have many characteristics such as being strong, independent, nurture and just basically get the job done for yourself and your family.

My day as a mother starts very early and consist of taking care of duties around the house such as laundry, making sure the kids get to school on time. Also, I have to make sure I’m ready and prepared for work since I am a home aide nurse.

So basically, I am a mother 24/7 so my job is never done as most parents know. Making sure everybody is happy is a blessing because I know I’m doing my job good and I know my kids are fine.

Nowadays minorities are stereotyped because of the reality shows on tv. Many people fail to realize there are still good humbled women in this world. There are women with regular 9-5 jobs. Women that have high morals and don’t seek attention or fame. Even though we are shown to be aggressive on tv and social media these days, it is a very small percentage of the community.

However, it is used to generalize all of us. As a mother, I always try to teach my daughter good values. I often encourage her to trust her gut, be confident and go after her dreams. My advice for young women would be to always stick with your morals and never let anyone or anything discourage you. Asking for help does not make you less of a woman or parent so don’t be headstrong about it.

Final Thoughts

Women make up more than half the people in the world. Is it surprising then that there are so many different perspectives that come to life in these stories? Feminism, motherhood, the history of all the hard work and sacrifice that women had undertaken, feminine beauty; these things actually the literature of the greater part of humankind.

We may think that feminism is a recent thing, but there have always been women who have gotten their way because of their beauty, or strong will, or intelligence. What’s exciting about hearing the stories of women today is that now, for the first time, we get to hear so many voices insisting openly on what they believe. 

It takes a lot of energy to begin to interpret it all, too. There are daily concerns, the kind that women have to explain to their guys friends so often, like why they can’t just walk around at night and feel totally safe, or how annoying it is when a guy speaks over them and everyone’s attention goes right to him. 

There are also larger concerns, and these take a lot of energy and intelligence. How do we feel about women’s portrayal in media? How much work will it take to achieve the same positions as your male colleagues?

Some of the stories by women that you read told you to you must be emotionless, ferocious. Others said embrace emotion and beauty. But they all offer one lesson that’s the same: insist on yourself. If you push forward fearlessly, you’re sure to succeed.

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Womanhood Is Self-Defined

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“Being a woman is about being strong and challenging the notion that you are supposed to be in a specific box.”
Bukoba, Tanzania
To me, being a woman is about being strong and challenging the notion that you are supposed to be in a specific box; defying convention and getting out of the typical traditional roles that were set for women. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a traditional woman who has a family and is nurturing and cleans the household.

But for me, I am not limited to these roles. Womanhood is self-defined because of course I want a family and children, but I also want to have my own company and a career. What’s wrong with doing both?

Being a woman requires a lot of strength. Whether we like it or not, women are second-class citizens. We will always have to work twice as hard.

So much is expected of women. We have this pressure to not only meet expectations but exceed them to prove that we can do more and get out of the box.

Not only that, but it’s hard to reach your goals when you see other women trying to break each other down. It’s so sad. But the reality is that we live in a male-dominated culture.

If you have certain goals, you need to put yourself in a position where you will succeed. You need to be emotionless and do what you need to do to be successful. In my opinion, women are not naturally ruthless in this circumstance, but our society has shaped us to climb our way to the top.

In Tanzania, women empowerment is very strong. Is women empowerment as a topic supported by our society? Not so much.

We are very traditional people. However, the community of women who support each other to go above and beyond is very strong. Women especially support each other to be their own boss and become business owners in agriculture.

My personal take on women empowerment is women supporting other women to reach their goals, by any means necessary. I personally believe that some men are intimidated by what women can accomplish when we support each other. However, women cannot allow any external forces to blur our vision, or influence what our aspirations are.

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Women Should Stand Together To Make A Change

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“Stereotypes of what a woman is supposed to be or act like are restrictive.”
Utica, NY
Being a woman not only means to be nurturing and caring, but also being powerful. My older cousin has inspired me to be who I am as a woman.

She’s taught me to not let other people’s perceptions of me bring me down or define me. I grew up as a tomboy, I did whatever I wanted without any limitations.

Most of my cousins are male. I have a brother and I hung around my uncles a lot so I did everything with them.

My older female cousin and I grew up as tomboys, and we didn’t fit the gender stereotype of what being a ‘girl’ means. We weren’t ‘girly girls’.

I didn’t realize that until I went to middle school that there were certain things that girls were supposed to do and certain things that boys are supposed to do. When I was at school, the boys would always bother me and say that I’m supposed to play with dolls while they went to play with trucks. There were all these gender stereotypes, like I was supposed to wear pink, but I hate pink. Why would I wear pink? These stereotypes of what a girl or a woman is supposed to be or act like are restrictive.

I think it’s so important for women to support each other by creating solidarity so that we can uplift each other. Especially because in our society, men are definitely considered as dominant and women are ‘supposed’ to be subordinate. The power dynamics in our society won’t change unless women come together despite who they are or where they come from and stand together to make a change.

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The Power Of A Woman

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“Let’s stop defining ourselves by our gender. Let’s define ourselves by what we wake up and do every day.”
Boston, MA
When I think about being a woman, I think about how that is different from being a man. And one thing that stands out is a woman’s sensuality. There’s just something about a woman’s body and the energy that exudes from her. Men just don’t have this. Not like a woman. There’s a mystery and an intrigue in women of all shapes and sizes, all nationalities and of all ages. There’s a specialness and strength in the sensuousness.

I respect and admire this sensuality in women, and many times, I behold it in wonder. This is not to say women are sex symbols or objects. I guess they can be such, and often they are, or maybe often society makes them such. But I find power and strength in a woman’s sensuality—sex appeal—that I think gives women, or should give women, a unique sense of self and an inner calm and confidence of spirit.

I fancy myself a feminist, though that word has become, to me, a little passé. And I feel in some ways I should speak about women being equal to men and that I should be on trend singing out from the mountain tops that it’s a woman’s time to stand up for her rights and that a woman’s day has come. But frankly, this conversation kinda bores me. It sounds like a broken record to me. It sounds like talk and the same talk that’s been going on for years. I prefer action. And not just pussy hats on the square and women banding together. I’m sure this feels powerful and I’m sure it’s unifying. I have a lot of female friends and when I get together with them, let me tell you…it’s powerful and energizing. I LOVE THEM! (And they are all very sensual and powerful in presence by the way.)

But I am not empowered by this ‘I Am Woman, Hear Me Roar’ stuff. I’m not naive to the issues we face in society when it comes to gender equality. But I also just sometimes feel like, let’s not whine about it. I’m kinda sick of talking in terms of gender. I was actually a little miffed by the idea of talking here, about what I like about being a woman. Feels, you know, like a chick thing to do. I’m not sure I’d see men writing about ‘Why I Love Being a Man.’

And maybe that’s the problem. Let’s stop defining ourselves by our gender. Let’s define ourselves by our abilities, our strength of character, our choices and our actions. Let’s define ourselves by what we wake up and do every day. I don’t wake up and think about being a woman. I wake up and think: what am I going to accomplish today?

I like being a woman because I possess an inner strength and attitude, an inner beauty and natural sensuality that gives me the confidence to tackle each day with the kind of passion, excellence and dare I say, superiority, that ‘that other gender,’ in my opinion, just can’t light a candle to.

I just like being a woman.

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